Catching Up with Your Husband: Things You Must Consider

By Ann Hills / 3 years ago

No matter how many hot, steamy nights you and your husband have had together, things tend to die down after a while. Just as you age and change over time, the same goes for your sex life; what turned you on when you first got together might not be the same for you now and several different elements may also contribute to making your love life more challenging.

But don’t worry, we’re here to tell you how to spice up your sex life and keep you and your husband satisfied through it all.

How To Maintain a Fulfilling Sex Life

In the beginning, everything is carefree and it's easy to have loving and sexual feelings towards your husband, it’s what comes after that honeymoon phase that can take a toll on your love life. Children, responsibility, financial obligations, and medical problems such as erectile dysfunction (ED) are some of the many aspects that can put a damper on your sex life. Experts say that the key to a happy, satisfying sex life with a long-term partner is mixing things up, discovering your own new sexual preferences, and making up your own sex rules as you go along.

As your partnership and preferences change, so do your rules, they aren’t hard and rigid, and they don’t stay stagnant; they grow and change with your relationship. Unlike the common misconception, trying to change things up in the bedroom doesn’t necessarily mean that you feel less intensely about each other, it only means that you want to make each other happier by making things more exciting.

Intimacy With Erectile Dysfunction

ED can take a toll on any relationship, but it’s a more common condition than you’d think. The majority of men over the age of 25 struggle with ED, at least intermittently, due to physical or emotional issues as well as lifestyle and fitness choices. When your husband suffers from ED, it’s easy to internalize your feelings of self-doubt and focus on what’s missing and jump to conclusions, assuming that your husband is no longer attracted to you. However, it’s important to remember that your husband’s sexual abilities are as vulnerable and intimate as yours, especially when they’re dealing with ED. ED doesn’t have to mean the end of your sex life, how you handle it makes a huge difference. So, how can you do things differently? What steps can you take to support him?

The more you know, the better prepared you'll be able to support your husband. Learn as much as you can about ED, and ED medications, go to for more tips, and make sure you have a comprehensive understanding of the issue. This is a great way to let your husband know that you value and support him. Because it’s a sensitive issue, your husband may be unwilling to consult with a doctor, encouraging him to be proactive about his health is a crucial step when it comes to dealing with ED.

A health care provider will be able to accurately determine the reasons behind your partner’s condition and the best ways to deal with it based on his medical history and current health status. It’s important to have an open channel of communication for you and your husband to discuss your feelings and insecurities and come up with creative new alternatives to improve your intimacy. Making adjustments to your sex life together and finding other ways to satisfy and please each other can alleviate the pressure to perform off your partner and helps you both have a good time.

Tips From The Sex Experts

While you’ll want to support and encourage your partner as he manages his condition, it’s also important to take care of yourself, too. So what are some tips you can include in your sex life to ensure you and your husband’s satisfaction? Here are some recommendations from sex experts.

Build Up Tension

Don’t undermine the importance of non-sexual touch in spicing up your sex life. Sometimes, focusing on non-erogenous zones can be more erotic than engaging in direct sexual activities. Engage in playful teasing and flirtation to build up sexual tension. Aside from ramping up your day-to-day touching, consider a non-sexual activity that still requires touch, like a massage. A sensual massage can help bring your attention to all the erogenous zones of the body that aren’t typically treated as sexual which can double the pleasure for you and your partner. Another way to build up tension is by making your texts and conversations a little kinkier now and then to tease for what’s to come later in the day. Keep this game going throughout the day, and when you reunite with your partner later that evening, sparks will fly in every which way.

Be More Sensual

Pay attention to the ambiance and create an environment for lovemaking that appeals to all the senses. Pay attention to the feel of bed sheets against your skin, the scent of perfume around the room, the beat of music, the soft ambience of candlelight, and the taste of luscious food. Affirming your connection with your own body can help you connect with your partner’s body even more. Work on creating a heightened sensual awareness by doing non-sexual activities together during the day such as dancing, yoga, or any other mild activity. It's easy to believe that your relationship is fine just the way it is, and that may be true, but nothing bad can come from putting a little extra care in your partnership. A fulfilling and sustainable sex life requires effort to maintain.

Make sure to openly and honestly share any insecurities or needs with your partner to reach the ultimate intimacy bliss and remember that a positive sexual experience is best measured by how much pleasure you and your partner are getting from it. This article should give you an idea or two on how you can have the most pleasurable sexual experiences by changing things up a little bit.

About the author

Ann Hills

My name is Ann Hills and I am a food blogger and a yoga teacher. When I was a child, I often got around my mother and watched her cooking in our kitchen. My mom always says to me that: “Kitchen is the heart of any home”. I strongly believe in her saying that’s reason why I prefer spending my money to make my home better than other stuff.

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