How to Get Your Child to Sleep in Their Own Bed

By Ann Hills / a couple of years ago

Why is it important for kids to sleep in their own bed? These are some of the essential reasons:

- To prevent sleep problems: Sharing your bed with your child leads to inconsistencies in sleep patterns. Parents are unable to sleep well with a kid around who’s constantly kicking, tossing and turning in their sleep, that’s why kids must have a bed of their own.

-To encourage independence for your child: Sleeping on their own allows children to become more independent and to overcome their fears. This boosts their self-confidence and in developing their personality and character.

- It can put a strain on the parents’ relationship: Sharing your bed with your toddler can pose a danger in a couple’s relationship. You tend to lose your private time together as husband and wife. 

- To make sure that the child’s sleeping needs are met: Children need up to 14 hours of uninterrupted sleep every day.  This is often not the case if you’re all cramped together in one bed. There are a lot of distractions and your kid sometimes wait upon you to climb into bed before they’d finally snooze off, that’s why they must have a bed of their own to make sure that they’ll have a good night’s sleep.

Here are some relevant tips that you can follow to be able to make that smooth transition of getting your child to sleep in their bed.

Explain The Situation Clearly To Your Child

Talk to your toddler and explain in simple terms why it’s important that they should sleep in their own bed. Let them know that it’s a good thing and that it’s part of being a grown kid already. Expect protests and tantrums along the way, but eventually, your kid will be able to understand as long as you explain it well.

Involve Them In Furnishing Their Bedroom

Nothing brings joy to a child more than by knowing that their choices and opinions matter. Have them choose their beddings and let them decide what colors and designs they like. Do they like Disney-themed pillows? Choose room accessories based on their favorite movie characters and they’re sure to be delighted.

Develop A Bedtime Routine

Every family has their bedtime routines and for your child, it may be having a bath before brushing their teeth or vice versa. Singing lullabies or a bedtime story while cuddled in their bed are also great ideas. A regular nighttime routine sets clear expectations and it will prevent tantrums as well. Kids will also be more relaxed and confident knowing that you’re there with them before bedtime.

Be Firm And Stay Calm

The first few nights of sleeping alone in their bed will be a struggle, both for you and your child. Expect outbursts, persistent crying, and other antics. However, be firm and be consistent. Reassure them gently and if you find them sneaking into your bed just stay calm and accompany them back to their room. The experts behind found out that kids struggle with anxiety and normally will have problems sleeping at night. Thus, a good way to reassure and help them calm down is to tuck them in bed with a weighted blanket or stuffed animal.

Communicate And Give Rewards

Kids can be very emotional but they’re smart and easy to pick up ideas. Take time to talk to them about the importance of sleeping on their own. If they were able to stay put in their bed through the night and didn’t resort to tantrums give them treats and rewards. Most of all, be lavish with your praises.

Make Sure That Your Kid’s Room Is Safe And Secured

You can still be protective of your child, even if they’re in a separate room. Take the necessary safety measures to make sure that your kid is out of harm’s way.  It’s advisable to get them a low bed or just a mattress to make sure that they won’t fall to the floor. If you’re using a regular bed, make sure that bed rails are in place.  Always check that the windows and doors are properly locked. Install a baby gate to bar the stairs and put household items that contain chemicals such as cleaning products in a place where kids can’t reach them. It’s also advisable to have a baby monitor in your child’s bedroom so you’ll be alerted if they wake up or wander around during the night.

Make The Process Slowly But Surely

If your child has been co-sleeping with you since they were an infant, then it’s most likely that they won’t accept the transition positively. The best you can do is to take things one step at a time. You may start by accompanying them in their room until they fall asleep or you may sit nearby or beside the door to keep them company as they doze off.


There are times when getting your child to sleep on their own may take a lot longer. Just some of these scenarios include:

- When your child just suffered an injury or not feeling well

- If you and family are in the process of moving to a new home or going on a family vacation

- If your child is currently going through some phase or changes which may include potty training, outgrowing the pacifier, or starting their preschool year.

Making a child sleep alone in their bed involves a long process. It may take a while before your child gets used to it and realize that they’re no longer allowed to co-sleep with you. However, with the right attitude and techniques, the transition will be a smooth one. The adjustment may take longer than usual, but it will eventually pass and once they get used to it you can surely say, “mission accomplished!”

About the author

Ann Hills

My name is Ann Hills and I am a food blogger and a yoga teacher. When I was a child, I often got around my mother and watched her cooking in our kitchen. My mom always says to me that: “Kitchen is the heart of any home”. I strongly believe in her saying that’s reason why I prefer spending my money to make my home better than other stuff.

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